No Longer at My Table, but Still in My Prayers

Dear readers,

Friendships are some of the most cherished relationships we build. They often shape who we are, offering support, laughter, and memories that last a lifetime. But not all friendships are forever, and that’s okay. Sometimes, life takes us down separate paths, and those we once called friends become distant chapters in our story.

Tupac Shakur once said, “Just because you lost me as a friend doesn’t mean you gained me as an enemy. I’m bigger than that. I still wanna see you eat, just not at my table.” Those words resonate deeply because they embody a truth I’ve come to embrace: outgrowing someone doesn’t mean you wish them harm—it simply means you’ve learned to protect your peace.

There was a time when I struggled with the idea of letting go of friendships. I wondered if I was being selfish or unforgiving. But over time, I realized that setting boundaries isn’t an act of cruelty; it’s an act of self-respect. Not every person is meant to stay in our lives forever, and releasing them with love and no resentment is a gift to both yourself and them.

Sometimes, we lose friends because our values no longer align, or because the dynamic becomes unhealthy. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean the good times weren’t real, or that the memories we shared weren’t meaningful. It simply means our journeys are moving in different directions.

What I’ve learned is this: You can wish someone well from a distance. You can want to see them thrive and succeed, even if their success no longer directly intertwines with your life. Because holding onto bitterness or grudges only weighs you down—it never heals or helps.

To those who’ve parted ways with me, I sincerely hope you’re doing well. I hope life is kind to you and that you find all the happiness you deserve. I just hope you understand that, for my own growth and peace, I had to make a change.

And for those of you struggling with similar decisions, remember: letting go doesn’t mean you’re weak or heartless. It means you’re strong enough to choose what’s best for you, while still wishing the best for others.

With peace and perspective,

Just Catrina